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Everyone knows the expression, expressed by Socrates in the 5th century BC, that in a dispute, truth is born. If this statement is applied to the present time, then it can be paraphrased as how truth is born in a discussion or in a dialogue, but not infrequently such dialogues lead to conflicts. How to behave correctly in conflict situations in order to achieve your goals with low losses?

In psychology, there are five main types of human behavior in conflict situations: rivalry, cooperation, compromise, avoidance and adaptation. Each of these behaviors has both pros and cons. In the early 1970s. Ralph Kilmann and Kenneth Thomas, Ph.D. professors of management at the University of Pittsburgh, have developed a method for measuring the severity of five basic types of behavior in interpersonal conflict.

On our website is translated into Russian and adapted by N.V. Grishina this technique for the post-Soviet space. The technique has a convenient form of a questionnaire test and includes 30 pairs of statements. In each pair, you must choose the option that best suits your views. As a result, after passing the Thomas-Kilmann test, you will find out to which conflict resolution strategy your psychotype is predisposed and what the likelihood is that you will win or lose in the conflict. At the same time, do not forget that with any test result - positive or negative for you - you can learn to manage conflicts. The main thing is your desire!

P.S. The only way to gain an advantage in an argument is to dodge it. (Dale Carnegie)

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Thomas test: behavior in conflict.

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The test contains 30 pairs of statements. In each pair, you must choose one statement that best suits your views.

1. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) There are times when I let others take responsibility for solving the problem.

b) Rather than negotiate the things on which we disagree, I try to stress those things upon which we both agree.

2. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to find a compromise solution.

b) I attempt to deal with all of another's and my concerns.

3. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I am usually firm in pursuing my goals.

b) I might try to soothe the other's feelings and preserve our relationship.

4. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to find a compromise solution.

b) I sometimes sacrifice my own wishes for the wishes of the other person.

5. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I consistently seek the other's help in working out a solution.

b) I try to do what is necessary to avoid useless tensions.

6. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to avoid creating unpleasantness for myself.

b) I try to win my position.

7. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to postpone the issue until I have had some time to think about it.

b) I give up some points in exchange for others.

8. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I am usually firm in pursuing my goals.

b) I attempt to get all concerns and issues immediately out in the open.

9. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I feel that differences are not always worrying about.

b) I make some effort to get my way.

10. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I am firm in pursuing my goals.

b) I try to find a compromise solution.

11. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I attempt to get all concerns and issues immediately out in the open.

b) I might try to soothe the other's feelings and preserve our relationship.

12. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I sometimes avoid taking positions which would create controversy.

b) I will let another have some of their positions if they lets me have some of mine.

13. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I propose middle ground.

b) I press to get my points made.

14. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I tell another my ideas and ask them for theirs.

b) I try to show him the logic and benefits of my position.

15. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I might try to soothe the other's feelings and preserve our relationship.

b) I try to do what is necessary to avoid tension.

16. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try not to hurt the other's feelings.

b) I try to convince the other person of the merits of my position.

17. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I am usually firm in pursuing my goals.

b) I try to do what is necessary to avoid useless tensions.

18. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) If it makes the other person happy, I might let them maintain their views.

b) I will let the other person have some of their positions if they let me have some of mine.

19. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to get all concerns and issues immediately out in the open.

b) I try to postpone the issue until I have had some time to think it over.

20. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I attempt to immediately work through our differences.

b) I try to find a fair combination of gains and losses for both of us.

21. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) In approaching negotiations, I try to be considerate of the other person's feelings.

b) I always lean toward a direct discussion of the problem.

22. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to find a position that is intermediate between mine and another person's.

b) I assert my wishes.

23. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I am often concerned with satisfying all my wishes.

b) There are times when I let others take responsibility for solving problems.

24. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) If the other's position seems important to them, I would try to meet their wishes.

b) I try to get the other person to settle for a compromise.

25. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try to show the other person the logic and benefits of my position.

b) In approaching negotiations, I try to be considerate of the other person's wishes.

26. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I propose a middle ground.

b) I am almost always concerned with satisfying the desires of each of us.

27. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I sometimes avoid taking positions that would create controversy.

b) If it makes the other person happy, I might let them maintain their views.

28. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I am usually firm in pursuing my goals.

b) When settling a situation, I usually try to find support from another.

29. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I propose middle ground.

b) I think that it is not always worth worrying about any disagreements that arise.

30. (out of 30):

Choose the only statement that best suits your views

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а) I try not to hurt the other person's feelings.

b) I always share the problem with the other person so that we can work it out.